I was just writing up a different blog post when I got a phone call from my very good girlfriend. She and her husband have offered her very fertile womb so that I could have another baby to add to our family. This offer was and is so shocking to me because I myself never wanted to be pregnant again. So what a shock that someone else was willing to be pregnant again, and not even for themselves!!
Now, not wanting to be pregnant isnt because I didnt want more children, but 
because I am crazy!! My first pregnancy I was on bedrest for 6 months trying to keep that little sucker in there and I thought I was so weepy and off my rocker because of bedrest. Any of you who have been on bedrest or hospitalized during a pregnancy know what I am talking about. It is so difficult. I always thought bedrest would be the ultimate, come on, sit in bed and watch shows to your hearts content, no housework, no cooking, and no job. I also didnt have any other kids, so that made it even easier. Well, not a picnic I want to be invited to again!! It sucked the big one. After I had the little boy I hemorrhaged quite badly and needed transfusions, then to top it off, I got pretty bad post partum. When I got up the courage to have another baby, the entire pregnancy went really smooth, but I was really depressed and not myself during it. To say it lightly, I was a horrible person.
That is when I began seeing Dr Therapist, and we had a fabulous time together every week talking about my crazies. I realized that I wasnt moody the first time because of the bedrest, but that the hormones that happen to me during pregnancy make me an angry little elf and very depressed. After little girl was born, happy days, the depression vanished. AMAZING!! I was myself almost instantly after she came out. The problem then was I went on birth control and became crazy all over again. So, Dr Therapist and Dr Gyno decided it was in my best interest to not have more children naturally and to never be on hormone birth control again. So off went my dear hubby to the snip snip appointment. Good man. By the way, he has frozen sperm put away for a just in case, so we wont have to reverse the operation. Neither of us ever thought we would only have two children, but we looked into several options and decided we were lucky to have the two we got, and should just move forward with life. Heck, kids are stressful, and adding more just adds more chaos! Now, I am headed for a hysterectomy, which is 2 weeks away, so I really couldnt carry a baby if I wanted to. Surrogacy has always been at the back of my mind, but I just thought, so expensive and I didnt know if I could trust a stranger to carry my baby. So, back to the beginning, my good friends offered me this gift. I trust this friend so much to do the job, I know she would take good care of the pregnancy and that she would do a better job then I would. You probably are thinking many things. Could it ruin a friendship?? Not this one. Could complications arise for example,
multiples or the baby could come out unhealthy? Absolutely, but I would never be upset with her for these issues. I just have to wonder, if my good friend ended up, heaven forbid, carrying multiple babies, like 4-8, could I possibly do that to her?? Lets be honest, could I do that to myself even? Those are the tough questions. There is also the gossip that can arise at church and different places, that though, is the fun part for us. We would just find that entertaining! It would be so fun for prego friend to tell nosy people, no, it isnt my husband's baby, it is stressed out mama's husbands. Good line eh? Why not have fun with it. We worry about the stress it could put on our friends kids, husband, and most of all, her. We like to call them the Duggar's because they have 6, yes 6 kids themselves. Alright, the 2 youngest, twins, are not theirs biologically, but foster kids, but they are still theirs!! They will have them forever too, so doesnt matter that she didnt deliver those beautiful babies! So, she has 6 kids, carrying my 8 babies, how would she cope?? haha Look at that picture, how cute would 8 babies be?? If that was the case, put me in the loony bin now, cause TOO much. I am not trying to be Jon and Kate, believe me!!! I dont want my own reality show, I am much too boring. Oh wait, I am perfect for it, with all my babies, my big fake boobs, and my flat tummy. Wouldnt I be the sight. MILF alright!! Hold the men back, they wouldnt be able to resist! Anyway, back to my thoughts, could I let my friend do this, and for what? My selfish desire to have more kids, when I have 2 beautiful, loud, psycho children I can barely keep up with. Is my friend the most selfless person I know? Absolutely! What gift could be more giving and loving and more self sacrificing?? I dont know. I will always love her for it, and for the light that she has brought into my life since I met her. I am so grateful for good friends who love me, no matter my craziness! I am trying to keep my blog for entertainment value, and shock value, but I also want it to be about my life. Here it is. I promise to talk lighter next time, but this is what was on my mind today. I hope it all make sense as I am the first to admit I am a terrible writer, so do not judge my horrible writing skills!!
because I am crazy!! My first pregnancy I was on bedrest for 6 months trying to keep that little sucker in there and I thought I was so weepy and off my rocker because of bedrest. Any of you who have been on bedrest or hospitalized during a pregnancy know what I am talking about. It is so difficult. I always thought bedrest would be the ultimate, come on, sit in bed and watch shows to your hearts content, no housework, no cooking, and no job. I also didnt have any other kids, so that made it even easier. Well, not a picnic I want to be invited to again!! It sucked the big one. After I had the little boy I hemorrhaged quite badly and needed transfusions, then to top it off, I got pretty bad post partum. When I got up the courage to have another baby, the entire pregnancy went really smooth, but I was really depressed and not myself during it. To say it lightly, I was a horrible person.
That is when I began seeing Dr Therapist, and we had a fabulous time together every week talking about my crazies. I realized that I wasnt moody the first time because of the bedrest, but that the hormones that happen to me during pregnancy make me an angry little elf and very depressed. After little girl was born, happy days, the depression vanished. AMAZING!! I was myself almost instantly after she came out. The problem then was I went on birth control and became crazy all over again. So, Dr Therapist and Dr Gyno decided it was in my best interest to not have more children naturally and to never be on hormone birth control again. So off went my dear hubby to the snip snip appointment. Good man. By the way, he has frozen sperm put away for a just in case, so we wont have to reverse the operation. Neither of us ever thought we would only have two children, but we looked into several options and decided we were lucky to have the two we got, and should just move forward with life. Heck, kids are stressful, and adding more just adds more chaos! Now, I am headed for a hysterectomy, which is 2 weeks away, so I really couldnt carry a baby if I wanted to. Surrogacy has always been at the back of my mind, but I just thought, so expensive and I didnt know if I could trust a stranger to carry my baby. So, back to the beginning, my good friends offered me this gift. I trust this friend so much to do the job, I know she would take good care of the pregnancy and that she would do a better job then I would. You probably are thinking many things. Could it ruin a friendship?? Not this one. Could complications arise for example,
multiples or the baby could come out unhealthy? Absolutely, but I would never be upset with her for these issues. I just have to wonder, if my good friend ended up, heaven forbid, carrying multiple babies, like 4-8, could I possibly do that to her?? Lets be honest, could I do that to myself even? Those are the tough questions. There is also the gossip that can arise at church and different places, that though, is the fun part for us. We would just find that entertaining! It would be so fun for prego friend to tell nosy people, no, it isnt my husband's baby, it is stressed out mama's husbands. Good line eh? Why not have fun with it. We worry about the stress it could put on our friends kids, husband, and most of all, her. We like to call them the Duggar's because they have 6, yes 6 kids themselves. Alright, the 2 youngest, twins, are not theirs biologically, but foster kids, but they are still theirs!! They will have them forever too, so doesnt matter that she didnt deliver those beautiful babies! So, she has 6 kids, carrying my 8 babies, how would she cope?? haha Look at that picture, how cute would 8 babies be?? If that was the case, put me in the loony bin now, cause TOO much. I am not trying to be Jon and Kate, believe me!!! I dont want my own reality show, I am much too boring. Oh wait, I am perfect for it, with all my babies, my big fake boobs, and my flat tummy. Wouldnt I be the sight. MILF alright!! Hold the men back, they wouldnt be able to resist! Anyway, back to my thoughts, could I let my friend do this, and for what? My selfish desire to have more kids, when I have 2 beautiful, loud, psycho children I can barely keep up with. Is my friend the most selfless person I know? Absolutely! What gift could be more giving and loving and more self sacrificing?? I dont know. I will always love her for it, and for the light that she has brought into my life since I met her. I am so grateful for good friends who love me, no matter my craziness! I am trying to keep my blog for entertainment value, and shock value, but I also want it to be about my life. Here it is. I promise to talk lighter next time, but this is what was on my mind today. I hope it all make sense as I am the first to admit I am a terrible writer, so do not judge my horrible writing skills!!
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